SCHOOL'S OUT FOR SUMMER
by Vickie Dickneite, Resource Coordinator
June 01, 2009
Those four little words that most children love to hear may provide parents with a mixture of fear and relief. Parents and children alike are relieved that the homework has ceased for a few months. Many parents worry about how to provide care for their children while they work. Is your child old enough to stay home alone? Where can your school-aged kids stay while you are at work?
First of all, consider your child's age and maturity level. Does your child feel at all frightened or apprehensive about staying home alone? Does your child follow your instructions and your rules? You might feel most comfortable leaving your child alone for short periods of time at first. Leave for gradually longer periods of time, and make sure that you and your child are comfortable with the situation. Be sure to leave phone numbers where you can be reached, and check in with your child while you are out. If you work more than 15 minutes away from home, be sure that your child has a trusted adult close by in case of emergency.
The National SAFEKIDS Campaign recommends that no child under the age of 12 be left home alone. The decision to leave your child home alone is a very personal decision that needs to be made based on your feelings and experience with your child.
Be specific in discussing your expectations and how you would like your child to use his or her time. Set firm rules, with clear do's and don'ts. For example:
- Is the TV or computer allowed? If so, what channels or sites are off-limits?
- Do you want your child to answer the phone? How do you respond if someone calls and asks for one of your parents?
- What household chores should be completed before you arrive home?
- Can your child invite friends or go to other friends’ homes while you're out?
- Is your home is childproof? (i.e., are medications kept in a locked cabinet?)
- Are firearms kept in a locked cabinet and/or do they have child safety locks?
- What could your child potentially get into that might cause harm?
- Can your child be counted on to stay clearheaded in an unexpected or emergency situation? Can your child calmly dial 911, give their full name (and yours), street address and phone number, and explain the situation? What if someone were trying to get into the house? What would you do if there were a fire?
Parents should remember that a child who can take care of herself/himself may not be ready to take care of younger children. An 11 year-old may be responsible enough to stay home alone, but may not be capable of caring for a younger sibling whose needs are greater. If you plan to leave your child or children in the care of a young adult or teen, consider the above questions for the caregiver, and make your expectations clear. Do you want a caregiver who has a structured schedule of activities each day or allows for lots of flexibility? Is nutrition or exercise important to you? Remember that as a parent, you are your children’s primary caregiver, and you must feel comfortable with your child care decisions.
